Case 4: Culture Card

Can a man and a woman from two very different cultures or races ever be accepted by each other and by society? Can someone so different from me ever really understand me, or will our relationship always be strained because of our differing heritage, customs, background? Can a brown man and a white woman stand next to each other holding hands in line at the supermarket without getting viciously stared down by adults and children with prejudice dispositions? A black woman and a white man? Will my children look like me if I marry this man, and will I love them just the same even if they don't?

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My Dirty Foot In Mouth

We're supposed to just be friends, and we were talking on the phone. That's a good thing. We were wrapping the conversation up and you said, "Ok, I'm gonna go get something to eat."

I couldn't resist. The punchline came too easily.

"I'll give you something to eat," I said.

"Eaaaaasy," you said.

Dammit, this friends thing is going to be anything but.

Case 3: Size Matters

Can a man have a small penis and still wholly satisfy a woman? He may give the best oral I've ever experienced, his mere fingertips make my toes curl, a gaze or even a glance from those deep green eyes make my clitoris swell. And yet, I wonder if I will ever feel full... whole... complete... without a throbbing man part inside me at least once in a while. Will I look for it elsewhere? Will a vibrator ever be a proper substitute for a truly fulfilling cock? Even fingers, or a lover's skilled tongue? Or will there always seem to be something missing? Will he always feel lacking that he can't satisfy me in the way I want, and become resentful? Can we ever resolve this important difference in our sexual lives?

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Valentine Schmalentine

My wonderful, rational roommate and I are going to exchange Valentines on February 15th this year. I feel bad for all you suckers who have to pay full price for yours.

xoxo,
Dee

Case 2: Inner Beauty

Can two people have a strictly emotional, even spiritual connection, with little to no physical attraction and still have a sexual and exclusive relationship? What if the physical attraction is there for one, but not the other? Do I hide this fact from him, smiling and telling him he's the most beautiful man in the world (because he is on the inside) all the while knowing that I'm not being honest? Will I always be wondering if there is someone better out there, who I can look at and say, "damn, you're sexy" and really mean it? Will he grow on me with time? Is there such a thing as inner beauty, which can overcome this seemingly superficial reality?

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Case 1: Talkin' Bout My Generation

Can two people, separated by more than a decade in years, ever make it work? Age is nothing but a number, and maybe his immaturity and my maturity balance out. Maybe my immaturity is compensated for by his older-and-wiser guidance when I really need it. We may never stop making jokes about nearly being different generations. About him being too old for something, about something being "before my time." I don't mind any of that. But he will be old long before I am out of my prime, at least at the rate I'm going. Strangers' stares don't make me feel any more secure in my decision. It is clear that he's not my brother. Can we ever resolve this difference, when everything else seems to be perfect?

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He Calls Me a "Fox" :-)

"What are you wearing tonight? ... well, you're a fox so either way..." he says.

There's something about a guy that calls you a fox that sounds so sexy. It's not degrading sexy, like, "hey baby, wanna do something later?" It's sexy like, "you have all the charisma and sex appeal of a woman who knows what she's got and is not afraid to flaunt it!"

Gahh I love him. Looking forward to tonight.